Facing Christmas without a Loved One.
Advice on how to cope with Christmas after a loss by Tony Clarke. You can alway contact me if you wish on 0191 5656055.
- Talk to your family and friends. They will be grateful if you tell them how you feel as they care about you. Just because they don’t mention it, it
doesn’t mean they don’t care; it just means they don’t know what to say and are afraid of upsetting you.
- Make time in the day to do something in memory of your loved one. Light a candle, look at some happy photos and tell others of a happy memory that you shared. Shed a tear, but be grateful for the
time you had them with them.
- Do something just for yourself. If you want to watch your favorite TV program with a glass of wine, or go for a walk to a favorite spot. Your loved one would want you to feel happy.
- Ask a friend to call you at Christmas so that you can have a support you need during this difficult time.
- Don’t expect people to read your mind or intuitively know what you need. If you haven’t had an invite try asking someone if you can pop in during the day. Your real friends will be more than happy
to help and support you through this difficult time.
- If you feel sad and depressed or cry; know that this is completely normal and that the first Christmas can be very hard one. Look into the future; it will get easier. Don’t forget you can always
call ‘The Samaritans’ on 08457 90 90 90 if you just want an ear at the end of the phone. It is not weak to reach out for help. You are grieving.
- Enjoy a Christmas food and drink, but avoid numbing your pain with alcohol. This will just make you feel worse in the long run. Have a glass or two, but know your limit.
- Try to be happy. I know this is the last thing you want to hear, but I am sure your loved one would want you to be happy. I don’t feel it is disrespectful to laugh during your darkest times;
sometimes it is the only way to survive.
- Celebrate when you get to the end of the day; you took control and not only survived, you found some pleasure in the day, and you will enjoy many more Christmas days and create new special memories
as well as always remembering the special times you shared with your loved one.